So it JUST occurred to me today that I didn't post after my Pre-OP appointment.
I didn't share the exciting news about my surgery date.
Surgery is on Monday, September 22, 2014. The first day of Fall! I am excited about this date. (The surgeon did ask me if I would move surgery up if anyone cancels, but I am not counting on that.)
I have everything prepped for work. My boss is even giving me the option of working on a project at home, so I don't have to use up so much leave time. Super sweet of her!
Everyone at my office has been SO supportive. I really feel like I will be successful because of the support around me.
I cannot wait to be on the loser's bench. The world is my oyster!
p.s. Next time something exciting happens... I will try not to be a dingbat and forget to post about it. Also, I updated my countdowns :)
I have not fallen off the face of the earth! I just haven't had a lot to report.
Friday, i went to my 6 hour pre-op class. It was quite informational, and I am so glad I brought my mom with me. She has a much better idea of what and why people go into this surgery.
I LOVE my surgeon. He was awesome. He could have a second job as a stand up comedian if he ever got bored with surgery, but he seems to really love what he does. Throughout his presentation he kept talking about ways he takes extra care, time and patience with his surgical procedures and you can tell in his results. ZERO complications in over 8 years. I love those stats!
My mom came with me and I think it was a really good experience. She is a little overweight, but nothing close to me. She is essentially half my size. I think she has been struggling with why i want to get the surgery. After going to the class and hearing what the Surgeon, MA, PA, Nurse and Nutritionist all had to say, i think she gets it.
Downside: They are already booked through mid-August with surgeries and my appt to schedule isnt until July 2nd. I think I am looking at a September date :(
I am not super happy about that, but it is what it is.
Sooooo I finally had my intake consultation on April 17th.
Great. Wonderful! LETS DO ITTTTT!
I got a bunch of tests and referrals ordered. Completed everything by 4/29. Not bad. I took the first appts that I could get for everything.
Pre-op class June 6th. Thats the soonest I could get scheduled. Damn.
Once I get all tests done I can schedule my Pre-Op visit, ok!
Thats the first one? :(
Surgery is usually scheduled 1-2months AFTER the pre-op visit.
So I am looking at August most likely.
Which makes me pout a little, but I know its for the best. August is the slowest time at work, and by then I will have enough paid time off accrued to take off 3 weeks. SO BUCK UP BUTTERCUP! Time to enjoy life before surgery.
In the past week or so I have found myself gravitating
towards post-op behaviors. I am not making an active decision usually, its just
what I am craving. For example, today I went to the café/mini store at work for
a snack-lunch and grabbed cottage cheese, peaches, some cheese and a high
protein milk shake (with a shot espresso).
These are all things that I like, and most of them are things I
hear/see/read post-op sleevers/banders talking about eating.
Over the weekend, I found myself using smaller plates/bowls.
I had been feeling like a cavernous pit of empty two weeks ago, and now I feel
like I get full on a lot less. Pre-op head games.
I am happy for the change in direction. It will help to easy
my system into these changes. Hopefully my body will not have such a shock this
way. No matter what I do pre-op it will be a transition, but can’t hurt right?
Still going to the gym in the mornings. Nothing too crazy, just
cardio right now. I am trying to build in the habit and then I will pump up the
Had an awesome beachy easter weekend with some family and
the boyf. Went digging for razor clams.. and by went I mean my dad, step mom
and step sister went clamming and I stayed and watched in the house. Moral
support. I didn’t get my license and didn’t
want to risk it. Still fun. We went to
the crab races and walked around town. It’s
the 3rd weekend in a month I have spent out there.
Feeling super sleepy today even with my morning gym sesh.
Need to work on getting to sleep earlier. My goal tonight is to be in bed by 7….
This way I can hopefully be sleeping my 830-9. We’ll seeeeeeeeeeeee!
I was so excited for this appt today at 9:30am... 9:30.... 9:35.... 9:45 WTF why hasn't she called? EMAIL..... 10:00....10:15 SERIOUSLY?! VOICEMAIL..... 10:30 Call main office... Told to wait.... 10:45 ring ring... FINNALLLLLYYY
The scheduler entered my phone number incorrect.. lovely.
So she asks me a bunch of medical history questions, what do i do for work, do i exercise, etc.
Clean bill of health.. just fat.... obese... morbidly obese.
So she tells me that I have a packet coming in the mail with a list of ALL the things I need to do PRIOR to scheduling my Pre-op appt with the surgeon that has to happen AFTER my class which is scheduled for June 6th. She will try to schedule it as soon after the class as she can but I have to complete the list first. CHALLENGE ON! Oh and surgery is scheduled 6-8 weeks after the pre-op appt. So I am looking at August/Sept for Surgery. Kind of bummed about that, but it will be ok.
Going today at lunch to get my lab work done. Its the easiest thing on the list.
I was considering waiting until I was post-op and dropped like 50lbs or so to get a haircut.... but why wait to feel good until after I have surgery?!?
Crazy haircut story:
I went to a Hairmasters that I had never been to in a town that isn't super close to where I live, but I just felt like that was the best one to go to for some reason. My hair stylist is a younger chick named Ali. She is super cute and bubbly and we start talking about my Harry Potter phone case and random fan girl nerdy/geeky stuff. Near the end of my hair cut when she was blow drying my hair, she started saying goodbye to the other hairstylist. She was saying good luck for her cardiologist and hope she clears him for surgery (anytime anyone mentions surgery now I auto think WLS) and the other lady responds with "he better! I didn't pay all this money and haven't been on a liquid diet for a week for nothing!" DING DING DING! So I pipe up being the nosey-B I am, "Are you having WLS?" YEP! She sure was... She is going to be getting sleeved.... Like me!
So totally random hair place at a totally random time, and I make a new WLS friend. We started yapping about different protein powders and websites to find supplements and all sorts of stuff. I gave her my number so she can keep in touch with me. Love it!!
Oh and here is the haircut......
A picture is worth 1000 words... so that is all :)
Hooray for me, I have been to the gym the past three days. I feel good about that.
I am on this continual food funeral cycle. Like for instance, Soda... I don't care much for it, but now that I have it in my mind that I should not/cannot have it after I am sleeved now I want it? Terrible.
I went to all you can eat sushi this weekend with my mom and ate to the point of pain... because I think I can never have sushi again? Because I can never have that MUCH sushi at one time again? Why?
Today I am having chips.... I haven't had them in a long time and I usually don't have them, but somewhere in the back of my mind I think I want to eat all the crap I can until I see the nutritionist and figure out what they want me to do......
Like I don't already know?! With as much research on blogs and vlogs and everything else I am preeeettttty sure I already know what to expect.
Last night, right before bed aka the worst time ever to weight yourself... I weighed myself. the highest number I have ever seen my scale spit back at me: 300.2 WELP! There it is. 300.
(this morning it was back down to 296)
I just don't like where my head is at... half healthy and half ... grieving? I guess that must be it.
I LOVE food. I love it. All of it. I will try anything and everything. Part of me is sad that food won't be such a centralized thing in my life and part of me is grateful. I need to reshape my relationship with food without a doubt, but I don't know any other way of life.
Will be interesting to look back this after I am post-op and reflect.
• Thou shall exercise 5 times per week for 40-45 minutes.
• Thou shall not covet the carbohydrate.
• Thou shall not eat more than 3 meals per day and shall not have unhealthy snacks between meals.
• Thou shall drink at least 8 glasses of water each day.
• Thou shall eat a minimum of 70 grams of protein each day.
• Thou shall honor thy commitment to good health and healthy choices.
• Thou shall keep follow-up appointments with thy doctor.
• Thou shall always take thy vitamins.
• Thou shall not weigh thyself more than once-a-week.
• Thou shall always keep the memory of the past and the hope of the future as a clear image in thy mind.
Yesterday I made my first real step since my approval.
I went to one of my health plan’s bariatric support group
meetings. Out of the 11 people there, only 1 was a post-op patient. Julie, the
bariatric nurse/case manager, came to the meeting. I have spoken with her on
the phone and conversed with her via email, so it was really nice to put a face
to a name/voice. She has been with my health plan as the bariatric nurse for
over 20 years, so her knowledge is precious and vast. She knows the ins and outs of the procedures
as well as all the paperwork stuff that goes along with it.
I have not had my consultation yet, so I was many steps
behind everyone else that was there.
From hearing other people speak about where they were at in the process,
I learned that it was going to take a lot longer than I expected and wanted.
The number of referrals has grown and they only have 1 surgeon now. This means
everything takes longer. There have been budget cuts in all sorts of
departments, so what used to take 2 months is now taking 5-6.
I emailed Julie this morning to ask if she could get me
signed up for the mandatory class prior to my first consultation, and again,
she did! She is wonderful. My class is a 6hr class on June 6th. They
only have one class per month and the April and May classes are full. I am
hoping I can schedule my pre-op visit for as soon after June 6th as
they will let me.
Another thing I found out, I will have a 2 night stay in the
hospital and will be required to take 2-4 weeks off work depending on the doctors’
orders. A little longer than I was
expecting, but that’s ok.
All in all, I was very happy I went to the group. I plan on
attending the one in May. Its nice to
get more of the specifics of my health plan from people who have gone through
I am going to my first support group meeting on Wednesday
evening. It’s a great start and a great way for me to get accustomed to the
specifics of the surgery through my health plan. I feel like I am waiting in
line at Disneyland and it seems like it is taking FOOOOOREEEEEEVER. Before I
know it I will be on the ride and it will be over faster than I know. I will
look back and the wait won’t even be an issue.
I have started trying to incorporate post-op behaviors into
my daily life. This way the transition won’t seem so severe. I have been using
smaller plates and bowls, and making sure I am getting enough water in. When I
remember, I try to eat my proteins first then the rest.
As much as I want to, I am holding off on buying any post-op
supplies as I have heard over and over again that your tastes change. I don’t want
to have a bunch of useless protein.
My posts feel sort of boring to me right now… they will get
more exciting once I have a surgery date I hope J
Last night I had one of those experiences that I am sure EVERYONE that has WLS goes through. Someone telling you all the ways you could lose weight by NOT having WLS. Because they know better than you right? This is just something we all jump into with no thought because we are just fat and lazy and this is the easy way out. Right?
I really wish people would educate themselves before opening their mouths, but I do not live in a fantasy world.
My step dad, bless his heart, had an hour long conversation at me last night.. I say AT ME because he talked and I sat there and listened. He was explaining to me that people that go on prozac usually lose like 30-40lbs and that people that use CPAP machines usually lose 10-15lbs.. So his suggestion is that I dont get surgery I just go on pills that I don't need and sleep with a machine I also do not need.
"Why don't you just try something else before you jump into surgery?"
Have you not been paying attention to me for the last 16 years you have known me?
Lets make a quick list of all the something elses:
Cabbage Soup Diet (old school this was when i was like 13-15)
Trainers at the Gym
and probably more things I am not even thinking of because im all fired up!
Please be supportive. Please trust that I have done my research. Please don't try to be a doctor when you are not. Please do your own research.
Part of my pre-surgical journey has been digging up as much info as possible to get me prepare for the big day. In this quest of ultimate surgical knowledge, I have encountered a lot of wonderful tips, products and ideas. I am going to work on compiling them in this post. I will update it as I go.
Hospital Must- Haves:
Pillow with your own cozy pillowcase
Slippers with grippers
Abdominal Binder- I have only seen one person mention this but I would imagine it will be a friggin life saver
Pre/Post-op Must- Haves:
Cup warmer (GENIUS! for those times you are eating something warm and don't want it to be cold by the time you finish)
Powdered milk... for those liquid diet days when clear broth gets boring and you want something "creamy"
Yonanas machine. It takes plain, frozen fruit and turns it into a frozen treat!
How about Unjury's 21g of protein CHEESE SAUCE?! What fat kid doesn't like them some cheese sauce... mix this with some spaghetti squash and its healthy mac.
Sippy cup/ Tervis cup!
Pill box for vitamins
Those are my best ones so far. I will add more as I find them!
I saw this meme on Facebook recently, and it reminded me of growing up. I have frequently had hot dogs or hamburgers with no buns, so we used bread. It didn't bother me, but it got me thinking about other struggles that people don't realize.
You don't know the struggle until:
you cant sleep at night because your limbs start to fall asleep or hurt because your own body is crushing them
you can only fit into leggings/stretch pants because even your fat work pants wont fit anymore
you can't buy wide calf boots because even those won't fit around your legs
you don't go shopping with you sisters because you can't shop at the same stores
your XXL underwear fall off your ass all day because your front-butt gets in the way
you sit at an angle in the car because your stomach gets in the way of the steering wheel otherwise
you take the elevator vs. stairs at work because you don't want to be sweating and out of breath for the meeting
you can't go to the gym because somehow your XXL gym clothes no longer fit
you can't put your socks and shoes on
you can't cut (don't even think about paint) your own toe nails.
the list goes on...
I found this tattoo a while ago, and I decided it would be a great post-weight loss tattoo. "without struggle there is no progress" It speaks to me on many levels. I have fought hard throughout my life to be successful, so that I didn't have to choose between sandwich bread and hot dog buns in the grocery story (although I should just really avoid carbs... and hot dogs to be honest). The struggle of being overweight is what drives me to want a change. Need a change. A lot of people in my life think this decision to get weight-loss surgery is one of vanity. Sure, I want to look good, but more than that I want to FEEL good. I want to be comfortable in my own body and know that I am doing what is best for ME.
I have always been taught "It doesn't hurt to ask." However, I do not normally live by that idiom. I usually don't ask for one reason or another. I don't want to be a bother. I don't want to be that girl. I just don't like to cause others extra work on my account. Maybe that resonates somewhere deeper inside of me because I think I am unworthy of extra work? What makes me so special that I should ask for someone else to go out of their way for me?
Well, yesterday I decided that I did not like the scheduler's answer. I did not like having to wait THREE MONTHS for an intake appointment. Especially knowing that I would have two months of work proceeding that appointment before surgery. So, I did something that I don't normally do. I called the bariatric nurse. I left a message and I told her I didn't like the fact I was on a waiting list for June. I told her I know what I want and its important to me to get in sooner. I was kind and just asked.
Today, I got an email from her stating her apologies for the mishap with her schedule. She had a cancellation and asked if I wanted it. When is this cancellation you ask.... APRIL 17th! WONDERFUL! Yes, I will take it. I am extremely grateful. 4 weeks.. HECK YES! Things are looking up again. Sometimes I just have to behave like I matter and good things happen.
I just received the email from my PCP letting me know that I got approval from the bariatric case manager!!! YAY!!!
Now things can begin on the road to surgery!
Super anticlimactic, I called the bariatric center to schedule my 30 min phone intake and now I am on a waiting list for JUNE. NOT what I wanted to hear... 3 months before I can start the 2+ month process. uuuuuuuuuggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
I had a delightfully uneventful weekend. Rest was much needed after the shock of daylight savings time. Can't remember the last time I felt so depleted. I didn't even get out of my PJs on Sunday. I did do my food prep for all my lunches for the week, so that made me feel good. I am still working on getting my routines down in the new house.
Still waiting to hear anything from my health plan. The longer I wait the more I learn, so I suppose there are worst things in the world. I thought I was leaning towards the band but now I am really thinking its going to be the sleeve for me. I even watched the surgeries being performed on YouTube. If you don't have an aversion to blood/surgical stuff, you should check it out. Very interesting to see exactly what happens. Helped me to better understand some of the pain and discomfort that I hear post-op people talking about.
On the recommendation of Cheri, I read this book over the weekend. "Stranger here: How weight-loss surgery transformed my body and messed with my head" by Jen Laren. I got it on Audible.com. It was VERY fun to listen to. The lady who does the reading does a really good job of expressing the characters. I found the book to give a good "insider" version of WLS and the full scope of changes.. mind, body, relationships, careers, ALL of it. She doesn't hold anything back. The one thing about this book that had me raising an eyebrow is it doesn't seem like she worked out much to get such huge weight loss results. I am not sure if that's just something she doesn't talk about much in the book or what. Good book, you should check it out if you haven't. If you are like me and can't sit still long enough to read a real book, audible has it!
This quest for a healthy Jessica has lead to LOTS of reading. LOTS of it. I thought that I wanted the band, but now I am starting to consider the sleeve. I have not started talking to the bariatric team yet as I am still awaiting the approval. I would like some feedback from anyone who happens to read this and has some insight they would care to share.
Alright, this will be a shorty. I have not used the term BAMF in a long time, so that's kinda fun. I was told yesterday to listen to this new song "Turn Down For What" by DJ Snake and Lil Jon. It makes me feel like a BAMF. I noticed as I was walking into work (my parking spot is a 20 minute walk to my building...picked it on purpose) that I was walking with swagger. I don't normally use me and "swag" in a sentence, but today that is the only appropriate term I can come up with for my walking.
I'm still waiting to find out if I got approval from the bariatric case manager. Hate waiting. No patience. Well some.. just not for things I am excited about. I don't know if excited is the right word... maybe motivated or driven. I am just ready to start working on a healthier me and I want to know if am accepted into the program or not.
Anywhooosie, I hope everyone is having a nice day.
A year ago, I was frustrated that I was at 246lbs. I had lost 26lbs, but couldn't get the scale moving at a rate I thought was appropriate for my size or effort.
So what does this girl do?
EFF it all! Gain 50lbs.
It wasn't on purpose, but it happened because I let it. Now I wish I could be that frustrated girl sitting at 246lbs. I would tell her "Don't give up. You've got this. FIGHT THROUGH IT"
Where was I when I needed me before? Please remind me of this when it happens again. Because it will happen. Over and Over again. I will hit walls and hurdles and think I CANNOT do this, because I never have. Truth is, I can do this. Many others have before me, and many others will after. Sometimes I just need a kick in the pants and a reminder that I can.
I let myself get HUNGRY. Like really hungry make bad choices hungry. I bought these meals at Safeway this morning for lunches for myself and boyfriend. They are family size meals. I just ate the WHOLE mac and cheese container. Nothing like a 1560 calorie snack right? FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF WHY?! WHY DO I KEEP DOING THIS?!?!?! I knew when I was heating it up that it was a BAD idea. and
i did it anyways.
Right now, I think I am in the same mindset that I was when I thought I was going to make it on the TV show The Biggest Loser. I can eat whatever I want because I am going to lose it all when I make it on the show... then I don't make it on the show, but I have gained a bunch of weight. I am a super self-saboteur.
I have decided I want to get the lap band, so why bother eating healthy now? why bother with smaller portions? lets just gorge myself while I can.
I am not going to let my bad lunch dictate the rest of my day. Salad for dinner. Gotta get back on track.
One day at a time.
One step at a time.
One MEAL at a time.
I woke up this morning to the most beautiful cotton candy sky and view of Mt. Rainer. There's nothing better than starting my day with such a wonderful view.
I very recently moved with my boyfriend to my mom and step dad's house. We bought an RV trailer and I remodeled the inside to make it into a little apartment. To most people this sounds crazy or white trash or just plain bad, but I am finding that I love our tiny home. It's ours 100% and that makes me so happy. This also gives us the gift of time to save money. Most people are not given such a gift, and I am blessed to have been.
This opportunity makes it possible for me to start the process with my insurance to look into getting my lap band. I am still not sure what the costs will be. My insurance company has a very specific process and I have to be approved for the surgery by a case manager before they will let me know what the costs will be. I suppose this gives a person the chance to really decide based on health and not financials. Either way, my decision has been made and come what may for the rest of it.
I anticipate that my father will be the hardest person to convince this is the right decision. I am 27, so I don't need his approval to get it done, but he is still my dad so it weighs on me. I was at his house yesterday and thought about telling him a few times, but I chickened out. Conflict is not one of my strong suits. I don't like to fight and I really don't like to disappoint my parents. My being overweight has always been a disappointment to my dad though. He wouldn't put it in those words but like they say actions speak louder than words.
Maybe once I get the approval from the case manager and some more information I will tell him... I'm undecided. Maybe I just get the procedure done and not tell him until I see it's working. My mom and step dad know. My grandparents know. My boyfriend knows. They support me. My grandparents support me most, but that has pretty much always been true. I am not ashamed of my decision, but I do not want to deal with a lot of negativity either. Is this something that most people go through?
Well, today I am going to be nesting in my tiny house. Organization is key! Happy Sunday Funday and thanks for reading.
Hi, My name is Jessica. I am 27 years old from.. to make it easy lets just say Seattle. No one really knows where Sumner or Pacific are, so Seattle! I work at the University of Washington in an administrative job (which means I am sitting at a desk most of the day.. whomp whomp whomp).
I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I have always been the fat girl with a pretty face. That fact has not held be back from a lot of things. At least not that I have really noticed until recently. I have had boyfriends, friendships, traveled and etc. I try not to let it get into my way. As of late, my weight has SKYROCKETED! I used to "top out" at about 250lbs get on a diet and start moving more and I could drop 20-30lbs fairly easily. This is no longer the case for me. This morning I weighed in at a crushing 291.8lbs. That officially an all time high. One that I am not proud of, it is just fact. I have been doing weight watchers for 3 months and have not lost a pound, in fact I have gained 3lbs.
The idea of weight loss surgery has always scared me, and I have been opposed to the idea. Recently, I have been rethinking. The idea of being morbidly obese scares me much more than the weight loss surgery. I know I am going to encounter a lot of "haters" with this decision. Unfortunately, a lot of those will be my family. People always want to tell me why I don't need to worry but here are a few reasons why I do:
High Blood Pressure
Not to mention these photos:
I am not hating on myself by any means. I just want to accept the fact there is a problem and I need to fix it.
I spoke to my doctor last night, he agrees that I have thought about this decision thoroughly and is referring me to the bariatric case manager. If I get approved by the case manager then I can start the months for pre-op work that is required. I will update this as soon as I know anything.
LET THE JOURNEY BEGIN! And may the odds be ever in my favor?